17 things emotionally intelligent people do.

Hi, again you curious and compassionate animal you...

Emotional intelligence (EI or EQ) has typically been relegated to the soft-skills side of leadership. I'd argue EQ is more important than IQ these days. We all could use a bit more compassion and empathy. The world has never been more divided. Chaotic. And, in need of a freaking hug. 

Knowing the effect and affect you have on others are the keys to navigating everyday life. 

A simple definition of EQ you can take to the bank is: 

Your ability to identify and manage your own emotions and understand the emotions of others.

The good news is EQ can be developed by anyone. Empathy, compassion and the like are not just skills reserved for the super "feelers" among us. Yes, there is hope. 

Here are 17 things emotionally intelligent people do (that you can do too):

  1. Check-in with themselves daily...

  2. Understand how others respond to them...

  3. Never ignore or avoid the difficult side of things...

  4. Regularly seek 360-feedback...

  5. Trust their intuition...

  6. Check their egos at the door...

  7. Practice listening without judgment...

  8. Ask questions to verify hunches...

  9. Cultivate a growth mindset in themselves...

  10. Use 'we' language...

  11. Share the credit and shoulder the blame...

  12. Don't let themselves (or people they care about) off the hook...

  13. Aren't afraid to be vulnerable...

  14. Remain open-minded 99% of the time...

  15. Network and socialize with a diversity of people...

  16. Practice healthy selfishness...

  17. Aren't afraid to be proven wrong...

And, about a dozen or so amazingly positive and impactful other attributes I could list here like keeping an emotional journal, managing their day well, and practicing mindfulness. But, you get my point.

I'm curious, which ideas above resonated with you the most?

Do yourself a favor and pick the top two or three you need to focus on. Then get to work. If you need a bit of help reach out. You can reply to this post, or even better, contact a friend who you know, like and trust and ask them for their direct feedback.

Listen. Thank them. And, then take the necessary steps to put their wisdom to work in your life.

Oh, and remember, the first person you lead is yourself.

Here's to being a better human...

Steve Knox



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