Helpful advice on breaking the ice.

Olá you amazing and wily winner...

I believe it was Mark Twain who said: “The difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter. 'tis the difference between the lightning bug and lightning.”

Which is what I want to bend your ear about today.

I have a good mate who shall remain nameless, but he knows exactly what to do when he meets a stranger. Watching him introduce himself and make a connection is like watching your favorite band perform your favorite song at your favorite venue with your favorite beverage in hand. 

It's a thing of beauty.

Magical almost. 

And, I both hate and love him for it. Watching him is better than the best TED talk. Every single time he puts on a masters' class in breaking the ice. 

Do you want to know what his secret is?

He takes the piss out of himself and makes the person he's meeting feel like the Queen on her birthday.

And, he does it with a smile on his face. 

Now I'm not advocating you play the fool. But, what my good mate has taught me is pure gold if you learn how to leverage it. Which he has. 

Here's how:

Jump straight into the fray.


Be bold. Smile. Make eye contact. Introduce yourself. And, greet them appropriately. 

A handshake, hug, or kiss on the cheek.

Apologize for being awkward and pay the person a sincere compliment. 

It's that easy. And, that difficult. 

But, like everything in life, with a bit of practice, you can master the skill of breaking the ice. 

It sounds simple, yet I meet so many people who would rather play it safe, cross their arms and not make a connection. I get it. Putting yourself out there can be intimidating. Nerve-racking even. But, it doesn't take much to make a connection.

Just don't take yourself too seriously. And, try to make the person you're meeting feel like the rockstar they truly are.

Try it out this week and see how you go. 

Who knows, you might even make a new friend.

Here's to connecting...

Steve Knox


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