Happiness and the Paradoxical Commandments.

G'day you freaking amazing spark of generosity and hope...

I'm not big on emotional-hyped-feel-good memes, but every once in a while, I come across one and it rings true in my heart of hearts. So, when a well-intentioned-Steverino-Tribe-member sent me Kent Keith's Paradoxical Commandments, I was haunted and touched in a significant way. So much so, I just had to connect the dots and share with you today.

Here's what they say:

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

I'm sharing this with you today because I think these ten maxims point to the truth of what happiness is all about: Happiness isn't about addition. Happiness is about subtraction. 

Subtraction literally means, "to take away from below".

It's about flying below the radar. Putting others above yourself. Leading via humility and servanthood. Giving your best away. Taking the uncommon path. Going against the herd-instinct. And, consciously living from the inside out.

If you really take some time to think about this over the weekend, I promise you'll agree. 

Happiness is what you experience when you give. Not when you receive. 

Because your thoughts will be drawn to the handful of faces who have helped you, loved you, supported you and befriended you without wanting anything in return. It'll be their happy faces you picture in your minds-eye. 

I wonder if happiness isn't something you can pursue after all.

Maybe happiness is a by-product of doing all the good you can no matter what?

Here's to finding out...

Steve Knox

PS. I really would love these daily posts to reach as many people as they possibly can. If you find them helpful, I'd encourage you to send today's post out to 3 friends asking them to join our little tribe. Like now. Because if you wait until later, there's a 97.3% chance you'll forget.