Ciao you kind and considerate rascal...
Believe it or not, there is such a thing as a stupid question.
I know this may sound almost like "coaching blasphemy", but it's true.
There are four types of questions:
Literal Questions - Reading the lines.
Interpretive Questions - Reading between the lines.
Critical Questions - Reading beyond the lines.
Creative Questions - Reading outside the lines.
You should ask a literal question if you're trying to be specific. This has a YES or NO response typically.
If you're trying to imply a certain something-something, then you ask an interpretive question. This type of question is all about cause-and-effect and is used to infer a relationship or state a generalization.
Without getting into the nitty-gritty of critical vs. creative questions and their differences, both of them make things personal. In a way that forces you to stop, think, and weigh your response.
Asking a critical or creative question when you should be asking a literal question is where stupidity enters the ring.
I meet a lot of really really smart people who confuse themselves by asking the wrong kinda question. Call it over-thinking, or analysis-paralysis, or whatever the heck you want. But, at the end of the day, figuring out which question you should be asking is not that difficult.
But nevertheless, some people just can't help themselves.
Smart people ask dumb questions.
Asking the right type of question, on the other hand, will always lead to clarity, confidence, and correct action. It becomes a bright-shining-neon-arrow pointing you in the right direction.
And, when used strategically, the right question can even unlock something deep inside you which will move and guide you in the way of wisdom.
Here are five literal questions to help you navigate your next big-life decision:
Does my family support it?
Do I have the smarts to pull it off?
Can I afford it?
Am I likely to quit?
Is this a part of my calling?
Five YESSES and you're off to the races.
Four YESSES and you might think twice.
Three YESSES or less, and you'd be crazy to proceed.
If you want to improve your life, simply use these five questions in your decision-making.
You'll avoid asking stupid questions and making life more difficult than it needs to be.
The important thing to remember is to not overthink things - anything - if possible and to learn to ask yourself the right kind of question.
Here's to the life-changing magic of keeping it simple...
PS. Share this with your one friend who is in search of direction about their "next" big-life decision. Then tee up a coffee session to help them ask the right questions. Because friends don't let friends do "stupid".