Steverino: Stop worrying about how to lead Millennials, do this instead...

I think I might blow a gasket and lose my $#@& if I read one more post or listen to one more so-called expert pontificate on a podcast about the secret way to lead Millennials.

Yes, they are eager and hungry and ready to learn.

Yes, they’ve been pampered and protected a little bit.

And, yes, they sometimes can come across as arrogant and entitled.

But, guess what? That’s not a problem.

If you’re threatened, irritated or just plain frustrated with them get over it. It’s your problem, not theirs.

I mean that with every fiber of my being.

I really do.

You get to choose how someone makes you feel.

You may want to reread that sentence a few more times.

Millennials don’t need to be coddled any more than they need to be chastised. In reality, their behaviour is a cry for mentoring, coaching, and some tough love.

They are not after your job…even if those words fall out of their naive mouths. You have to learn to listen behind their words. You have to teach yourself to see their motives and recognize what they really need.

You have to learn to listen behind their words.

And, this requires patience.



They’ve grown up idolizing Steve Jobs, Elon Musk and in the era of Zuckerberg. Mistaking genius as a right, instead of a gift.

Which is why your relationship with them is so important to the future…

Your future…

Their future…

And, the future of whatever business, community or continent you call home.

So, flip that irritation and frustration on its’ head and instead get curious about what they are actually after.

Your job as a leader, manager, and parent is to shape them into responsible and creative contributors.

Don’t give them a trophy for participating. Let them feel the pain of defeat. But, also recognize they’re cut from a different generational cloth…
Well, I’ll get off of my soapbox now.

If you’re a so-called Millennial reading this, hear this one thing:

Slow is fast.

Don’t get yourself in a big-damn-hurry. You have time. You really do.

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Hi, I’m Steve Knox — founder of — I’m a leadership coach, consultant, and author. For the past 12 years, I’ve helped people all over the planet discover a different way to live and work. I write and speak regularly about life, leadership and making a real difference in the world. Connect with me here.